Roadtrip to 30’s: San Francisco, California – Food & Place Alert

Yes, it’s finally here, the San Francisco adventure! I posted up some clips and videos on my personal instagram as I was in San Francisco and I got a lot of ‘where is that at?’ questions. You’ll find all your answers in this blog!

After my 2 days in Colorado, I flew to San Francisco to finish off my birthday trip. I have never been to San Francisco, but has always wanted to visit. I loved it and I’ll definitely be back. There were so many other things that we didn’t get to do or visit. What took me by surprise though was the weather. It was 85º F in Colorado, so I was expecting the same, but I was very wrong. I guess in July for San Francisco the temperature is between 60º-75º F, or in better terms a warm Michigan Winter 65º F. It was quite a weather change for me coming from a hot and humid Michigan summer to a dry and hot Colorado summer to a long pant, light jacket cold San Francisco. I also read that this July in SF, it is holding the record for the coldest July they ever had. I also read that SF summers don’t start until October. So if you ever plan to go to San Francisco make sure you REALLY look at the weather! Do your research!


The first stop in San Francisco was Boba Bless. This stop was not planned, we actually were walking around the area while we waited for our table to be ready at Gao Viet Kitchen. After a super early morning of traveling, something sweet and cold sounded like the best snack before our first meal of the day. Boba Bless is a smaller cafe, but it’s cozy feeling and the workers are super nice! We got a taro milk tea, one of my favorites.

I actually didn’t even realize this when we were there, but the L in bless is a cross, so I decided to look up their website and socials pages. Boba bless is actually a mission driven business that opened exactly 1 year ago on the day that we went. They are involved with their community and serve the homeless every month on the 4th. This is what I got off the internet, “Boba bless is a mission driven boba shop. Boba Bless partner with a missionary organization in support to raise funds & awareness of their missions across the world giving and being a blessing to communities that are often ignored and needs help.” I’m not trying to promote religion on my blog as all, so I’m sharing without that aspect, but what they do is very awesome and wholesome. It deserves to be recognized!


I’ve been following Gao Viet Kitchen for a while now, so it was a must go for this trip! The location we chose to visit was in San Mateo, California. They are known on social media for their huge Zilla bowls. We wanted to try multiple things, so we opted out of those and got the regular sized bowls. For appetizers, we ordered the Fish Sauce Chicken Wings and the Marrow Cracker. Then for the noodle soups, we ordered the Chubby Pho and their Old School BBH (Bún bò huế). I also ordered the Milky Pandan to drink, which was non-alcoholic.

I have mixed emotions about Gao Viet Kitchen. Everything was good, except for the Chubby Pho. The Chubby Pho in my opinion isn’t anything special, it was actually less in flavor than some pho places here in Grand Rapids and it hurts me to say that. Plus, they use the bigger and thicker pho noodles and I’m not a fan of those. I would love to give the pho another try. I’ve convinced myself that the flavor comes from the specialty meats and other proteins, so maybe we just didn’t order the right one this time around. Am I delusional? Could be, but I would love to give it another shot. The Old School BBH (Bún bò huế) on the other hand was actually so flavorful! It tasted great as leftovers too, probably even better than when it first came out! The appetizers were the best though. The Fish Sauce Chicken Wings were so good, I could have just eaten those the whole time. The flavor/taste of wings had the perfect amount of fish sauce and a burst of flavor with every bite. The Marrow Cracker was also good. The crispy sticky rice that the bone marrow sat on top of was an interesting choice however. The crispy sticky rice could have been crispier in my opinion, I think a rice cake/cracker could have been used instead. Note that the Marrow Cracker is best when eaten right away!

Milky Pandan: Creamy milk and sweet coconut meets the unique flavor of pandan

Fish Sauce Chicken Wings: Chicken Wings, Fish Sauce, Vietnamese Coriander, Garlic, Chili, Jalapeño, Bell Pepper, Lettuce, Onion

Marrow Cracker: Crispy Sticky Rice, Pork Belly, Beef Marrow, White Onion, Green Onions, Fried Shallots, BBQ Sauce

Chubby Pho: Filet Mignon, Tendon, Marrow, Onion, Green Onion, Cilantro, Rice Noodle

Old School BBH: Spicy Lemongrass, Shrimp Paste, Brisket, Pork Blood, Pork Belly, Pork Hock, Vietnamese Ham, Thick Vermicelli, Vietnamese Coriander, Onion, Green Onion, Cilantro


After eating, it was time to check in to our cute Hello Kitty themed Airbnb! It was meant to be with this airbnb. We had a budget, certain dates and a certain location to stay, so it would be centralized according to our itinerary for this trip and this Hello Kitty airbnb fit all of that! The host had so many cute Hello Kitty/Sanrio items everywhere, it was perfect for the Hello Kitty lover that I am. The best part was the big Sanrio plush wall! I can’t lie, I have about a quarter of the same plushies in my room LOL. The airbnb fit our needs perfectly for our trip and the neighborhood was great! Jessica was also a great host and attentive. I would recommend this airbnb for a party of 2 and I would definitely book it again. If you want to check out the airbnb just click HERE for the listing!


After checking in to the airbnb, we headed to San Francisco’s Chinatown. I have also heard so much about it and seen it in movies, so it was must go on this trip. I wasn’t surprised by how it looked or how busy it was, but I was surprised about the parking. The parking signage in San Francisco can be so confusing and there’s garages/driveways everywhere, so finding street parking can be a little chaotic and you have all of the electric trolley buses and driverless Waymo cars going around. I think we drove around for about 30 minutes and 500 times around chinatown to find parking.

Fun fact: San Francisco’s Chinatown is the largest chinatown outside of Asia and the oldest in North America!

We walked all around Chinatown, visited all the stores and checked out all the cute trinkets that they had there, but there’s one place that everyone talks about online, so we had to visit too. Golden Gate Fortune Cookie Factory is this tiny store where they make tons of fortune cookies and gives out fresh free fortune cookie samples. They have tons of different flavors and types of fortune cookies to buy as well. The workers were so hardworking too! I didn’t get the hype and the line was so long, but I will admit that fresh samples were really good. Fortune cookies are best hot right off the press.

Okay, I looked it up and Golden Gate Fortune Cookie Factory has been open since 1962 and is known for making custom fortune cookies by hand ever since. They are the oldest handmade fortune cookie factory and they have tours available! We love fun facts!

We couldn’t leave chinatown without getting Dim Sum, so we choose a random place out of the many and ended up at House of Dim Sum. They had a huge variey of dim sum to choose from and it’s all decently priced. There is some dine in tables inside and outside for you, but it is quite small and can be loud. We ordered our dim sum to go, but ate it when we got back to our airbnb. It was delicious! I wanted to grab more on one of the other days, if we had time. We ordered Har Gow (Shrimp Dumpling), Siu Mai (Pork Dumplings), Shark Fin Dumplings, and Chives and Shrimp Dumplings.


HAPPY 30TH BIRTHDAY, SALLY! ♡

We started day two’s morning at the Balloon Museum: Emotion Air San Francisco. It’s a fun and interactive museum with all sorts of different types of balloons and ballon-like art concepts. There’s other locations and they each have a specific theme, the San Francisco theme is Emotions, so you’ll see a lot of “alive” balloons. I love these types of museums, they bring the kid out of you and they are just pure happiness and fun, plus the photo ops are always great! At the end they have a gift shop and a balloon bar, where there were huge balloon dogs and flowers. If we didn’t fly and drove instead, I would have bought some. They were so cute and huge, you can also customize your own colors and get other balloon shapes!


Right outside of the Balloon Museum building is the Palace of Fine Arts. It’s a structure that’s around a small body of water by the marina with a trail to walk around. The architectural structures themselves are beautiful and transport you to another place in the world. A great place for photos, it’s absolutely stunning!

Fun Fact: The Palace was featured in the video game SimCity 4 as a landmark. It was also replicated at Disney’s California Adventure as part of the entrance to a theater showcasing California’s history. The Palace of Fine Arts made famous cameos throughout the years in films like Vertigo (1958), The Rock (1996), Bicentennial Man (1999), and The Room (2003); and in series including Monk and Sense8.


It was time to get food that would be along the way to our next sightseeing location. We found the restaurant Blackwood and made it in time for their brunch menu! Our server was awesome, the food was great and the restaurant atmosphere was charming. We ordered the Ahi Scoops, which were full of different flavors that blended very well together, the Souflegg Skillets – Savory, which was a great big portion and the souffle was so soft, and Not Yo’ Average Ramyun, which the presentation was insane and it was such an upscale version of one of my favorite ramen packs.

Ahi Scoops: Sesame crusted seared Ahi tuna on spicy cucumber, seaweed salad and wasabi cream sauce

Souflegg Skillets – Savory: Soft steamed egg served on a skillet with rainbow potatoes and ciabatta. Fluffy, delicious, and wholesome. Savory: Spinach, crispy bacon, green onion.

Not Yo’ Average Ramyun: Dry tossed “Shin” cup noodles tricked out with maple candied bacon, fried egg, bell peppers, cabbage, mushroom


When in San Francisco, you need to visit the Golden Gate Bridge. The viewing area that most people talk about is right before you drive on the bridge, but I’m just a girl and I led Alan onto the bridge instead. While I was trying give directions on how to get back, to go the other way, I somehow got us to this other viewing/parking area. In the end, it turned out to be the perfect spot for our mini photoshoot! The photos turned out so nice and it was one of my favorite places of the whole trip. Sadly, the fog was out and it was windy, but we were warned ahead of time.


We were still so full and it was too early still for dinner, so we drove and walked around this neighborhood/shopping street. On my list of places that I wanted to check out, there was a charm bracelet shop called Tibetan Golden Lotus. I came in the store to just look around and came out with a brand new charm bracelet with the cutest charms that I personally picked out and a cute new ring! I’ve been to charm stores before, but none of them compare to Tibetan Golden Lotus. I still have my charm bracelet on now and it’s still in perfect shape, no rust or skin coloring and nothing has fallen off! The charms that I chose have little and simple meanings – a heart lock & key since we were going to put a lock next, ‘S’ for Sally, Hello Kitty for my love for Hello Kitty, a moon with July’s birthstone, and a bow because it was so cute and I’m just a girl.

Side note: Shoutout to my nail tech for absolutely slaying my nails, she did such a great job. These are so far are my most favorite nails and everyone else loved them too!


Yes, you read that right. We did put a love lock at Battery Spencer Overlook. This is actually our fourth love lock that we locked together around the US. Our first lock is in Houston, Texas, the second lock is in Orlando, Florida, the third lock is in Dallas, Texas and this one in San Francisco, California. We’ve been putting our locks around since 2021. It’s cheesy, but so cute, leave us alone! Let us have these little cute moments
This is an overlook of the Golden Gate Bridge, but it was so windy and foggy up there that this is the most clear picture that I have of the bridge from here. They are saying that this year’s July weather is their record coldest.

Side note: I was super excited to be up this high cause I was pretty much where Prue, Piper, Pheobe, Rose Halliwell and Leo Wyatt felt when they orbed or transported to the top of the bridge in Charmed!


You would be surprised at how much of an appetite you build up when you’ve been fighting the wind and your long hair in SF, LOL. I was having real life moments of delivering Krusty Krab Pizzas. If you don’t know by now, read this next sentence carefully. We always try a seafood boil place when traveling and King Cajun in Orlando is still my #1 place. Cajun Bowl has an all you can eat option or order a la carte. We opt-in the ayce because we’re big backs. Cajun Bowl could have been better in my opinion, it wasn’t the best, but it wasn’t the worst either. It didn’t give me a wow factor at all. They have a good selection for their ayce and don’t limit you on items like lobster tails and snow crabs, but it is an extra charge every time you order them, which I would rather have that than the extra charge and limit.


What’s a birthday without a birthday drink? We ended the day with drinks. I’m old now and day drinking for me means I’ll need a nap and there’s no time for a nap when you’re on vacation! Surprisingly there weren’t many bars open on a Sunday night past 9 pm. Maybe I’m just spoiled here in Grand Rapids. Nighthawk in Redwood City, CA was the place to be on a Sunday. It’s a smaller bar lounge, but it was packed and everyone stayed there for a while. The seating inside was cozy and their crafted cocktails were delicious. I ordered Lucid Dreams and the boyfriend ordered Tiki in the Trees.

Lucid Dreams: Coconut Fat Washed Gin, Clarified Lime, Lychee, Ginger Honey and Saline

Tiki in the Trees: Mezcal, Pineapple, Benedictine, Lime, Orgeat and Amaro di Angostura


We were so tired on my actual birthday to do the cake, so we did it on day three. The cake Alan got me was from Paris Baguette and it was in the cutest white bear design. Not only was the cake super cute, but it was also super yummy. It was a vanilla cake with fresh strawberries in between the cake, whipped icing (which is my favorite because it’s not as sweet) with coconut flakes. Overall, it was light and refreshing. The day we had to leave, we had a little over half the cake left and we couldn’t take it with us, I stuffed my face with it. I almost ate the whole cake before we had to fly out because it was too cute and too good to be left behind like that.


Day three is another stacked day, hope you’re ready for it! First outing of the day was to Pulgas Water Temple. It’s beautiful here and it’s another place that really transports you into a different world. It was so calm and peaceful here. There were people here, laying on their beach towels by the gates reading books and tanning. They had the right idea because I would absolutely do the same thing if I was a local! I love finding parks that have great sunlight, great views, but also not crowed and peaceful, so I can hear my own thoughts to journal and to be with myself.


We stopped at a Pacifica State Beach to try to touch the water, but it got pretty windy by the shore, so we just took a small moment to enjoy the sand before we made our way to Devil’s Slide Bunker. Pacifica State Beach is known as the beach with a Taco Bell, not even kidding. If we had Taco Bell right on the beach, best believe that is where you would find me!

The Devil’s Slide Bunker is an old WWII bunker that’s been abandoned and now heavily graffitied. The area that it is on is called Devil’s Slide. The history behind the name: that area is known for landslides and for being steep and rocky. When you are on the cliff, you have the prettiest view of the ocean and the surrounding coast and caves. Thankfully, it was clear and not foggy when we came. You do have to be careful about being too close the edge.


If you haven’t noticed yet, seeing the city of San Francisco from a higher view is very hard to do in July. You’ll have to deal with strong winds and fog. Our time at Twin Peaks was super windy. I thought it was pretty windy at Battery Spencer, but it was even stronger here. I was scared that I was going to get blown off the stairs going up and down the peaks. The pants I wore acted more like a parachute, so that was an interesting time haha. The views from Twin Peaks are beautiful though. You really get another view of the city. You feel so big & tall, but yet so small.


Miffy, do I need to say more? I’m obsessed with Miffy (sorry Hello Kitty). I even got a Miffy tattoo before a HK one. So when I heard there was a store that sells Miffy products, you know I had to go! The Kira Shop has so many cute Miffy products that you don’t usually see in stores, like stationary, plushies, keychains, clothing, houseware, beauty, etc. I got this cute plush keychain and a crewneck that saids SF with Miffy on it. They have another location in Hawaii.
Fun fact: I just found out a couple days ago that at SFO Airport, there’s a Miffy store! I didn’t know and missed out, so it looks like I HAVE TO go to SF again! 🙂


There’s this park called Golden Gate Park and you can walk around and find other parks or amenities to go into with admission. There’s the Conservatory of Flowers, Japanese Tea Garden, San Francisco Botanical Garden, The de Young Museum and The California Academy of Sciences.

We only had time to do one, so we chose the Japanese Tea Garden. It’s a smaller park, but there tons of spots here to sit down and enjoy all the Japanese plants and structures. The koi ponds are so fun to walk around and the koi’s are huge! There’s also a gift shop and cafe located inside, so you really could spend a good amount of time here. I heard that the matcha is one of the most popular things that you have to try at the cafe, but we were short on time and there was quite a line. A very tranquil place.


We drove over to the Haight-Ashbury District to check out a number of locations on our list and came across Dragon Eats. Dragon Eats is a small Vietnamese cafe/eats. We needed a mid day snack before the big dinner. I can never say no to Café Sua Da (Vietnamese coffee) and Bánh Mì (Vietnamese sub). The Café Sua Da and the Pork Meatball Bánh Mì were on point. The meatball pork was so good and full of flavor that I ordered a second one so I had it for my flight the next day.


Writing every place we went to in order, I notice that we keep going back and forth from nature to the city. We’re balanced, okay?
*cues music* – in the city, ‘member used to drive a Yukon*
San Francisco has a lot of vintage photo booths around, either in stores or in their own locations. The Photomatica Photo Booths were the ones that we found in the Haight District. This neighborhood is a thrifters dream. I think we visited 3-5 different thrift shops and that wasn’t even all of them!

There were 4 photobooths in the front of the store, each with their own printing style and color. The photo booths are vintage, meaning they are older so there is no screen that shows you what you look like and it’s an old school flash bulb that goes off when your photo gets taken. You definitely have to wait a little in between each photo booth for your photos to develop and for your eyes to recover from the flashes. Your photos strips will come out good as long as you fully draw the fabric shade close!


We visited the most talked about Pier 39 and as you can see, it was still very windy. If you have long hair like I do, just plan to wear your hair in a pony or bun in July. Save yourself the trouble and don’t curl your hair, cause the wind will just blow them right out.
I’m not sure how Pier 39 differs from the others, but this one is known for it’s carnival like charm, gift shops, restaurants and the sea lions! Yes, you can watch the sea lions chill on the docks all day and you can see Alcatraz from a distance!


Finally the birthday dinner! Everyone has been asking questions about where I chose to eat for my birthday and why. The Holbrook House was the restaurant of my choice for my 30th. The Holbrook House has 3 dining options to choose from – regular dining table, martini table and patio. I specifically wanted to experience the martini table. You still get full menu service, but you also get the champagne and martini switches! Whenever you are ready to get another drink, you flip the switch and they come around with either the champagne cart or the martini cart. They have drink menus specifically for the carts, so you get to customize your drink and they’ll make it right in front of you!

It was the good ol’ dirty thirty, so martini me please! I got to customize my drink every step and it was the best dirty martini that I have ever had. The caviar bump was *chefs kiss*, it was an add on, but for the price I would have done more bumps.

Sally’s Dirty Thirty Martini: Harku Japanese Vodka, Veso Tomato Vermouth, Olive Juice, Tabasco Hot Sauce and Blue Cheese Creme Fraiche Olives with a bump of Caviar on the side

We ordered from the raw bar, the Petit Seafood Tower, then Deviled Eggs and Caviar for an appetizer and an entree to share the Baked Pasta Alla Vodka. Everything was phenomenal, 11/10 would recommend The Holbrook House. It is on the little pricier side of dining, but everyone should treat themselves with good food once in a while. I dream about eating here all the time and it won’t stop. I can’t wait to have it again!

Petit Seafood Tower: Meyer Lemon, Key Lime, Champagne Mignonette,
Cocktail Sauce, Tabasco
Includes: Half Dozen Oysters, Scallop Crudo, Shrimp Cocktail (4), Half Lobster or Chilled Togarashi Crab

Deviled Eggs and Caviar: American White Sturgeon Caviar, Shallot Brunoise

Baked Pasta Alla Vodka: Calabrese Sausage, Parmesan, Vodka Sauce


Before ending our last full day in San Francisco, we went to a spot nearby to look at the San Francisco–Oakland Bay Bridge at night. It was very simple, but still pretty to see. There’s definitely nothing like it in the midwest. This time I did not accidentally take us on the bridge and I’m very thankful for that! When I was flying in to SFO, I saw the San Francisco–Oakland Bay Bridge from above and it was actually terrifying. This super long bridge in the middle of a large body water with nothing surrounding it and once you are on it, you can only go one way to get off. CRAZY.


We only had time to do one last eating adventure before heading off to the airport and the lucky winner was In-N-Out Burger. I still think In-N-Out Burger is overrated, but it’s not bad like I said it was in my past food blog. I’m slowly coming around to it. Except this might be the last time that I ever eat In-N-Out Burger, I’m traumatized. It could have been all the flights and layovers that I had or the drastic altitude changes or the time change, but I had super bad motion sickness on my travels back to Michigan and (sorry for the details) threw up the In-N-Out that I ate. Literally it was In N Out of me, it was pretty bad. With that, I’ll be taking a break for a while.


Visiting San Francisco has always been on my list since watching Full House and Charmed growing up. I didn’t think that San Francisco would also transport me to all these other places too. I’m grateful for it! It was like multiple mini trips within my trip. Everyone should plan a San Francisco trip and do all the tourist things. I actually loved all the typical tourist spots that we were able to fit in our itinerary and will be coming back to do the ones we couldn’t get too.

Thank you for making it to the end of this blog post! This one was a long one and we did a lot. I probably should have split it in two blogs, one for food and the other for places visited, but now you have this mini guide all in your hands. Below is just a little video I put together of both Colorado and San Francisco, Welcome to the roadtrip to my 30’s and cheers to this new decade that I made it too. Time to make more memories, see you all in the next SALLY THINGS


2024: October to December Photo Dump

Usually I write a summary of the months here, but for this one I’ll just say this: you were wrong, but you had the right to be wrong. Ended 2024 strong. Literal definition of trying to live your best life.





On To The Next – November.

If October was about healing, clarity and truths, then November has to be about reflection, love and gratitude. October gave me clarity and many truths. It’s November now – on to the next.


New month, new intentions and new affirmations.

Intentions are like goals, but are more mindset focused whereas goals are focused on completing a task. Whatever October came to you about, make sure you continue to follow through with it and nourish yourself. Be kind, be gentle.

୨୧  Practice Stillness: This month is for settling – for myself that is. November is for me to practice being still and enjoying the present moment without my daily stresses or worries. Practice being still in all moments whether it’s bad or good. Practice stillness in the silence even if it’s being loud.
୨୧  Stay Focused: I got a little derailed last month, so here’s to getting back on track and staying focused. Also making sure that I have my focus set on what is right. I am not the main focus, there’s others. Focus on what is right. I was offered more work that is along the lines of my business marketing degree, so I need to make sure that I stay on top of that. Be relentless in this, good things will come.
୨୧ No Anger, All Love: It’s always all love and always have been. I still have a little bit of these qualities and still working on it, but over time I’ve learned that it’s easier to live with the least amount of anger in your heart. I can be upset and disappointed all that I want, but it is not easy to keep anger inside and carry it around. It’s just not me. Let it go, do all in love and find your own peace. This is not a weakness, it’s actually a huge strength.


Affirmations to manifest and to guide/shape your mindset. Say it out loud as often as you will like. Say it loud and proud, say it for you.

୨୧ I accept my feelings as they are.
୨୧ I am willing to believe every thing will work out, even when it feels like it doesn’t.
୨୧ I lean on those who offer me support.
୨୧ I honor the changes that are happening within and around me this November.
୨୧ I gave this my all, that does not make me any less.
୨୧ I allow myself to take a break and do something I love.
୨୧ I find inspiration in peacefulness of November.
୨୧ I am confident and secure in myself and allow others to be exactly who they are.
୨୧ I give myself time to process feelings before I react or respond.
୨୧ I choose to have the strength to move on to healthier relationships.
୨୧ I will step out of my comfort zone today and do something new.


This section is a little more personal to me, but like always, it’s just as much for you if you need it. All I have to say is thank you

You are deserving of all the beautiful things manifesting into your life. The trash took itself out, so you just do you. Be gentle to yourself and take all the time you need to heal that pretty little heart of yours.

But as a girl’s girl – You’re doing the right thing for yourself.

You’re a good person with a beautiful soul, so give yourself grace. You did nothing wrong and it’s not that you weren’t enough. Don’t forget that.

For what it’s worth don’t let it fuck you up. We are too young to be not living our life/being the best version of ourselves.

Don’t lose yourself in who you become especially when you’re on your healing journey.

i think in these times my favorite saying to hear is ‘let it go, you’re exactly where you need to be and something better will come along.’ i hope you bask in the times you feel great cause you deserve it.


Wishing that November shows you all that you have so many things to be thankful for and that you are loved, enough, and deserve all the best. I’m wishing that you accept that you are loved, enough and deserve all the best. Do what is right and with love. It’ll come back to you 10x when the time is right. I hope everyone gets the day they deserve. There’s so much more to life, so go there.

Strangers.

Strangers. one word with a huge meaning.
one word that I hope will never be right.
Strangers. How can you become a stranger though?
Strangers are people who have no impact on your life.
You. You had a huge impact on my life. Nothing like a stranger would.
So does that really make you or us strangers, ever?
Unless one of us really forgets everything, we will never be strangers.
That was never the plan to become strangers.

thoughts that are more often


To Teenage Sally.

Hello you! It’s older you, age 26 from 2022. I just want to start off by pointing out how much love you had and how much love you put out in the world. No one has a big heart like you or will understand it. You put others before yourself every time and because of that, you got hurt. Just know that hurt went away and we’re focusing on healing it everyday. You grew up really fast, maybe too fast. I know it felt impossible to avoid. I don’t even think it could have been avoided and because of it you decided to live your life and have as much fun as you could. Which resulted with bad school grades and rejection college letters, regretful decisions, relationships with the wrong people and even some abuse. Life experiences that you didn’t expect.

A lot of good also came from this time era too and we were able to take more from that and put it towards who we are today. The rejection letters gave you more freedom to choose your own life path and not the one you felt like you had to take. The regretful decisions lead you to better understanding and a better way of thinking through things before doing them. Relationships with wrong people taught you what kind of people you wanted to surround yourself with and the red flags to avoid. The abuse gave you strength and a voice that you are not scared of using, you protect people in similar situations and your beliefs are very strong. Everything showed you how life really is, the reality of things. You are a big foundation of your future.

I want you to know that things that you didn’t accomplish in this part of your life really doesn’t matter later. You make things work, you problem solve, you actually have a good head on your shoulders, even though you don’t think you do. You made real friendships, lifetime friendships. It’s actually a lot of our 10 years friendship anniversaries this year or the next. We’re still working on things we didn’t accomplish before, but it’s more along the lines of what we really want and not what was expected from us. The love you poured out is reciprocated back 10x from all the babies, you helped show all these little girls what it’s like to have a loving auntie. Showed them what unconditional love is, that’s so much more than what most would be able to achieve and you did it that young.

The most important thing that you did was rebel and did what you wanted to do instead of what was expected. As an adult now, I praise you for that. It was very hard and a lot of tears were cried, even some now, but we’re in a good place. We’re good now. I’m here to remind you that you are worth everything, you are not a disappointment, you are enough.

To Teenage Sally, you are everything to not only yourself, but also to others.

To The Little Girl.

To the little girl,

There’s so much that I could tell you, but where would I even begin? You’ve been through more than most and your experiences are a little more complicated. I’ll start with these few things and we’ll go as we uncover more inner child situations.

You’re confidence and genuine.

You probably think this is crazy coming from this age, but you were very confident in yourself. Probably more confident than you are now at the age of 26. You were never scared of going for what you want. Yes, shy, but you still went for whatever it was that you set your mind too. You are also very genuine and authentic to yourself even though you felt like you should change. People like who you are, the real you. It’s okay to stand out, it’s not a bad thing. I know being shy, but also always standing out was a conflicting inner mess. You naturally stood out no matter how hard you tried to fit in and be the same as everyone else. It just wasn’t you and you do learn how to embrace it later.

Everything thrown your way actually made you a better person.

Yep, that’s right. Everything that you went through no matter how hard it was, it changed you for the better. It gave you perspective and opened your mind. No matter how hurtful it was or how sad you felt, you managed to keep your heart open and full. I want to say thank you, thank you for being so strong and not giving up. I’ll say this over and over, but I’m so proud of you. I know you needed to hear those words more often.

I’m proud of you.

You cried many tears for many years wanting to hear those words. You felt like everyone was always wanting and expecting you to be exactly like older sissy. Nothing wrong with that because she’s super smart and has her life together, but it just isn’t the same fit for you. You think differently, you act differently, you view things differently. You both will have two very different lives that you’ll live and the best part of that is you’ll learn from each other. More than you would have if you were her exact copy, the copy everyone tried to hold you up to. You are your own person and having someone’s recognition of that would have saved you lots and lots of tears. You would have had that validation that you craved so badly. I’m sorry you still struggle with this, but it’s getting lighter and lighter.

I’m sorry that this is what sticks with you and is your biggest struggle. That it’s so hard for you to bring up or talk about without tearing up and shutting out. To the little girl, if I could go back in time I would go back to every time you cried over not feeling enough or recognized and give you the biggest hug. A hug that would heal the both of us cause well… it’s still something that comes up now from time to time. I’m proud of you though and I want you to know that others do feel the same way.

To the little girl,

I’m sorry you felt lack of affection and love. I’m sorry that it caused you to stay in relationships that weren’t the best for you because you didn’t know better. I’m sorry it caused you to hold on to something that wasn’t there or that you hoped it would show up later. There wasn’t anything that you could have done that would have changed it. There’s consequences to every decision made and it’s unavoidable. You made the best of what you could. The lack of affection and love is actually really common with first gen American born kids. It’s hard for not only you, but your parents too. They were adapting and learning a new way of life as well as having to raise kids and trying to heal from their own traumas.

I want to thank you.

I want to thank you for taking everything like a champ because without you, there would not be this current version of me. I could be coldhearted, shut everything and everyone out and hate the world around me, including everything in it. Instead, I care and love with all my heart and still have space to allow more things to care and love in. I know who I am, I know who we are. I will continue to live this way and I will continue to work on healing you.

To the little girl, without you there is no me.

Drunk Thoughts: Surrounded By Love.

I will admit that I am not drunk, but I am tipsy tonight. it still counts, I’m actually half a wine bottle down! I am blessed to be surrounded by love for my birthday today (or yesterday if we talkin technicalities) It just be hitting a little harder when you’re in a whole different state and been going through how I’ve been feeling moving. (Another blog, another time haha) I appreciate EVERYONE for the love and all the sweet personal messages I’ve been receiving. It does mean the world to me ♡
Public or privately, I don’t care. EVERYONE took their time out and I appreciate and love it so much! I’m so blessed to be surrounded by love like this. I really truly mean it. Even work showed me love and I’ve only been there for 1.5 weeks. As I get older and now that I’m out of Michigan, I really don’t care for material things. It’s the friendships and bonds that I make that matter the most to me. To keep those friendships alive or going, to still have those connections or making new ones. I just want to be a good person for myself and to others. What’s most important to me is quality time. We only have one life and I want it to be surrounded by people who truly care for me for me and not for anything else, like “Sally’s this persons friend, girlfriend, sister, aunt, etc.” Just there for me because I am my own person and I act upon my own. What you see is what you get. My astrology sign is a cancer, so I care deeply for those with good intents who care about me the same as well. Maybe i’m heading to the drunk zone, with this astrology talk LOL.
But for those who have asked and wondered. I’m doing good over here in Wisconsin. I had my struggles, but you know this bitch got herself and she holding it down and getting through whatever comes her way in anyway she can help herself. I have some really good friends over here too and I really want my close Michigan friends to meet my really close Wisconsin friends one day. Let me clear up the space and say this too, NO ONE IS GETTING REPLACED. Leave that petty shit at home, I got a lot of space to love. ♡

To my Michigan friends or even out of Wisconsin friends, please send me your address over social media because I do want to send you guys little things in the mail! I’ve been going old school pen pal type route with postcards and letters lately. I do send randomly too. Getting a personal piece of mail is something that you get excited about and love and I want to give that to you all! My nieces have LOVED it and I personally love sending it all out too!

THANK YOU FOR ALL THE LOVE. You’ll never know appreciative I am of it cause words just can’t explain. Love you all so so so much ♡

Dear January.

You are always so cold, but somehow always filled with warmth and love. The start of a new year and the celebration of making it through another. Everyone thinks you’re a new chapter, but really you’re just a continuation. People count on you to be the new chapter, but it really starts with them to write that.
Adventure comes to mind when I think of you. The first January was the first adventure. It was so perfect, not a thing could or can ruin all those moments. Pure joy and happiness, nothing was questionable. My favorite of them all, the one that only really exists in my head. The last of the daydream.
The second January was a slow warming, if that warming was of a lit match. Trying to put together what was broken and not understood. Figuring out exactly what you need to get through the day, but running to an escape instead. The bottles were warm though. The feeling you had missed and lost. It was temporary and numbing, but it made anything confusing go away. A quick break to breathe. You threw love everywhere, not sure if it even belongs there and then went to the bottles with the same energy.
The third January was full, a more at peace feeling. Seeing actual waves and not the ones that mentally take you in and drown you. In a beautiful place where you don’t need to wait for any unknowns because now you are the unknown. A real reality that you could actually grasp. The understanding isn’t fully there, but you have a better idea of it than before. Something you can let go of at times without a lingering. You keep more to yourself because it’s only right. Protecting yourself, but in a healthy way. Working on recovery on problems you all created.

Dear January, please don’t let me fall. Stay cold, but give us your warmth. Please continue to let the patience of love wait on my drunk heart.

SALLY ♡ T


If You Are Looking For…

this is for you.

What you’re looking for is pure. What you want is gentle and soft even when everything becomes fragile and hard. Someone who will love the moonlight that makes you, more than your sunlight that makes others. Someone who will love your messy days and will love you more after. Someone who knows your flaws as well as they know your perfections. Someone that will take on some of your frustrations and stress with you because they can see it’s taking something away from you. Someone who wants to lessen the weight on your soul. They’ll know how to love you in all the ways you didn’t. They’ll love you in every way that you hoped. Someone who will choose you on bad days just as much as on good days. Everything you feel is your imperfections will be everything they view as your perfections. Being around them will just make you feel in balance.

You deserve it, you do.

SALLY ♡ T

I Had To Grow Up Early.

I had to grow up at an early age and most people don’t really know that about me or know exactly what that means. At that time I didn’t know what that would mean either. I had to grow up to help raise my first niece, but before you think I’m complaining about it, I’m not. Honestly, I wouldn’t trade that part of me for anything else in the world.

12 years ago today in 2009, my first niece was born and I was only 12 in 8th grade. My sister was only in 10th grade and her baby daddy? All I’m going to say is I’d punched him again LOL. Anyways, when they say it takes a village to raise a child, they are not lying at all. My sister was super-mom, my mom was grandma-mom and I was auntie-mom. The 3 of us (with the help of others) gave it our all for this precious little baby. She really became my everything. I always liked kids before her, but when I held her for the first time I just fell in love. You can thank Anastasia for my maternal instincts and my crazy baby fever. I wasn’t her mom, but I filled in that position when my sister was at work or at school. Guys, when I say she was a super mom, she IS a super mom.

My favorite story is that I actually came up with her name because she almost was named some Japanese word or Serenity. If you’re wondering if I got her name from the movie, then you are 100% correct. I love the movie Anastasia and I really think the name is beautiful. I take full credit for her name and I also take the #1 auntie award. There’s no doubt that I’m the favorite auntie.

I put her in front of everything. I even pushed some of my education to the side so my sister could get her work done and have somewhat of her remaining teenage life by watching the baby. I don’t regret any of it. Like I said, I wouldn’t trade this part of me for the world because if it was for this little girl I wouldn’t be as loving, patient, and selfless. If I’m being really honest, she’s a big part of how I’m able to welcome a special little guy into my life. Having to help raise her and how she was like my own really opened that part of me.

Anastasia is now a preteen that is just doing it all and I couldn’t be any happier. She makes me so proud. Time really goes by so fast, if she could be small again like in these photos, I would just hold her in my arms forever and never let go. She’ll always be my little Anachacha.


Anastasia, one day you’ll see all my post about you and you’ll see all the pictures and I just want you to know how much I love you and how much you mean to me. I will always be there for you. I can’t wait to see you (but yes I can very much wait) become this amazing young woman, knowing that I had a part of it. You are so loved and I hope you feel that all the time. Happy birthday Anastasia!

SALLY ♡ T