Tag: Opinion

Drunk Thoughts: What’s Meant For You Will Find It’s Way To You.

Welcome to my drunk journaling series, it’s been a while. For the new readers, this is my ‘Drunk Thoughts’ blog post series where I drink and decide to write about whatever comes to mind. No topic is off limit. Yes, tons of grammar and spelling errors. I do not edit these blogs to be better,. I leave them as is. What I write is what stays and yes I do keep drinking as I type cause who doesn’t love a rambling drunk writer? I want to be as authentic to myself that I can be. I mean why have a blog if you are going to be fake? That’s never been me. I’ll always be me on all platforms. I ain’t a fake ass bitch, you get what you get with me. If you are new, welcome. Welcome to Drunk Sally ♡ hahah

What’s meant for you will find you, come to you and you won’t ever lose it. It’ll always be around and find it’s way back to you if it gets lost. If it’s meant for you it will make it’s way back. How romantic is that? Some things are just meant to be in your life. I don’t know about you guys, but I’m a huge believer in it. If it’s meant for you, it will find a way.

I don’t know how young I was when I first heard that phrases, but once I heard it I always romanticized about it. That whatever was meant to be will always find a way. Then with every movie I saw with that theme, I started to believe that the things that are always meant to be also happened in previous or future lives or in multiverses or whatever came before and after. It’ll always be there, no matter what. What a thing to dream about. Of course for me it was always love. I use to daydream about my future love, my “meant to be” and how it was in other lives. I use to make up a whole scenario in my head of how I would just know and how it would be like not knowing that kind of set me up for failure or in situations where I should have just let it go. I can’t tell you how hard I would hold on to things when it should have been gone. How can something like that set me up? Something that gave me warm loving feeling just thinking about could also lead me blind? But you live and learn and you just know.

I would be lying if I said that I still don’t believe in it. I would be lying if I said that I don’t believe in it. I would be lying if I said I don’t think about it still. There are things that I experienced and felt like, REALLY felt like it was already a comfortable feeling or like it felt very warm and familiar for me like it has happened once before. It’s so hard to explain, but a certain feeling is there or present. Certain things are meant to happen in your life and certain people are meant to be in your life. Whatever is meant for you will find its way. It will always find a way.

Thanks to Journey & Discovery Red Blend Wine from Portugal and season 6, episode 14 of This is Us you all got this drunk thoughts. But really thank you, especially’s Rebecca’s line in the episode. If you like heart warming and emotional shows that make you feel every emotion, please watch This is Us. Okay byeeeeeeee ♡

Conversations: Asian Americans.

I came across this channel on Youtube called Jubilee and watched quite a few of their videos and it really got me thinking about my answers and opinions as well. There’s different episodes, but in each they bring in a group of people of the same or different race or people who believe in this or that and ask them questions. The group of people then stand on a scale of strongly disagree to strongly agree or sit down if they agree with said statement and just talk it out with one another. It’s such a nice safe space for these people to get their opinions or experiences out there about general topics or about those hard topics that most will stay quiet about. Maybe this will become a new blog series that I’ll continue to write about or not, but I just wanted to share where I am with this video called “Do All Asian Americans Think the Same?” | Spectrum (the video is at the bottom of the blog)

I think it’s great to watch videos like these especially with how society has been. A lot has happened within the last few decades, let alone the last 4 years. It’s time to start having these deeper conversations or just more conversations in general. I’m starting off with this video because I do identify with Asian American, I’m Vietnamese and American born. For me, it’s not like I have forgotten my cultural traditions or values, but I don’t really discuss them enough. So I’ll take some questions or statements from the video and discuss it. Just want to remind everyone that I am not the spokesperson for the whole community or race or the people that I hang out with! This is just me.

I have felt pressure to date within my own race.
Luckily, my parents have never put that idea onto me. They have mentioned it a couple of times, but they always made it known that it’s okay if I don’t. They don’t have a preference on another race either, so I was allowed to date whoever. Now when it comes to outside my family, like within the Vietnamese community here, I do feel the pressure. Weird right? Well I’ve gone to the Viet supermarkets, stores, hair salons, or nail salons and they’ll always ask me who I’m dating and what race they are, then make some comments like “oh, he’s not Vietnamese, why not? You need to find a Viet guy and keep the culture alive.” I disagree with that so much. I can still keep my culture alive still with whoever I’m with, it’s not passed down through blood, but through teachings.
Asian stereotypes are funny.
I think this is kind of a broad statement and you’ll see why, but my answer is yes and no. I have a lot to say about this. So asian stereotypes put on the asian group by non-asian are not funny at all. The typical asians are good at math, asians are bad drivers, asians have chinky eyes, asians eat dogs/cats etc. are just so outplayed, it’s not true for everyone. Stereotypes have a big influence in judging certain groups of people and most times they are negative. I think when I wasn’t up to par with some of those stereotypes, people I went to school with who were non-asians wouldn’t judge me differently, but they wouldn’t identify me as asian or downplay that I was asian. I heard a lot of “oh Sally, you’re not THAT asian” or “omg, you don’t like to watch anime or make boba? I’m more asian than you.” Which actually did hurt my feelings and made me feel a type of way, but I didn’t know how to correctly speak about it back in high school, so I would just agree with them. Now if it’s my asian friends and I talking about stereotypes within our different asian races, then they can be funny, but that’s because they aren’t so negative or downplaying their identities. Big emphasis on CAN BE FUNNY though.
I do want to point out that a lot of asian stereotypes are positive compared to other races and the stereotypes that are put on them.
Asian people have it easier than other minorities.
I would have to agree with that statement. I do think that asian people have it easier than other minorities even within the last few years and with covid happening. Yes, it’s very unfortunate and sad that covid has brought out more racism towards asians and it breaks my heart to see. Yes, we asians still have it harder than some minorities, but bigger picture we do have it easier. What asians are experiencing with covid, others have been experiencing for decades and on a more worst scale. Stereotypes on asians are also easier on asians, the “popular” stereotypes are majority positive. The reality of it is, asian minorities are more accepted in the United States with white people and I think it’s because of the history between the two and that asians have conformed with the American way. I don’t know how to really explain it, but I can see it or have experienced it personally. I do think Americans use Asians to their advantage sometimes to compare to other minorities or for other uses, when it’s good for them if that makes any sense.

Like I said earlier I do not represent a whole community or other people, but myself. I am up to having more in depth conversations and hearing other opinions, so feel free to comment or contact me. I want this to be a safe space of free discussion. I do not tolerate hate or racism though, so please don’t come around with that. Give me feedback on if I should do more post like this. Watch the video below and the others on their channel! Keep conversations going with the people around you.

SALLY ♡ T